I’d love to have my own love.
Maintaining a long-term relationship takes a lot of work.
The beginning stages of a relationship are often considered to be the best. Every conversation and every touch leaves us wanting more, and it’s all so easy
After a while, those feelings of vertigo and excitement are replaced by a less enthralling routine.
Sometimes it can make you wonder if you’ve lost that attraction or desire, and it may even make you question your relationship altogether.
But there’s nothing wrong with this new attachment phase, and with a little effort and determination, you can add flirtation to your relationship.
What is the most important thing? The more you do it, the easier it will be.
1. Both people in the relationship should be doing this effort.
I’d love to: The world we grew up in taught us that love, attraction and sex come easy if we are with the right person.
But while the movies and our social media are full of these wonderful images, emotional mentors like Phil see what others don’t.
We see couples struggling to make connections. I’d love to: Couples who feel something is missing because they don’t have sex, couples who no longer look at each other lovingly.
I’d love to: There’s nothing wrong with a relationship that feels a little flat and uninteresting, it just needs a little excitement. Once this is recognized, it doesn’t have to be so difficult to breathe a little life into your relationship.
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2. It can be fun to maintain your relationship.
Once you start being proactive about your relationship, you can start doing things that make it fun.
I’d love to: A few things to try include reminiscing about fun memories, surprising each other with a date night, and trying something new in the bedroom.
If you’re specifically looking for a deeper connection, you might check out Phil’s other article, “36 Questions to Keep Your Relationship Passionate – Even After Decades,” as a good choice. Based on a research experiment, 36 questions were designed to create a connection, and maybe even love, between complete strangers.
I’d love to: The questions range from the simple to the fragile and include questions such as “Do you think you want to be famous? In what way?”
Or “If you were going to die tonight and didn’t have a chance to tell anyone, what do you regret most about not telling someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?”
3. It is helpful to understand each other’s love languages.
When it comes to maintaining a long-term relationship, addressing the five love languages can be an important part of the process.
Created by Dr. Gary Chapman, the five love languages demonstrate the different ways people experience and express love.
I’d love to: Often, each person has a preferred way of expressing love, and the language of expressing love is not always the same for both partners.
Because your preferred language of love is different, communication difficulties may arise, resulting in a less-than-pleasant relationship.
I’d love to: Knowing your own love language and your partner’s love language is like discovering a shortcut to better communication that leads to more love and intimacy in your relationship.
The five different languages are
I’d love to: Words of affirmation: Receiving a compliment or hearing someone tell you they love you is the best way you can experience love.
I’d love to: Acts of service: When someone does something for you, such as throwing out the trash or cleaning the bathroom, you feel loved.
I’d love to: Receiving gifts: Thoughtful gifts make you feel cared for and loved by your partner.
I’d love to: Quality time: You will feel most loved when your partner makes an effort to spend time with you and give you his or her full attention.
I’d love to: Physical contact: Cuddling, hugging in bed, or just being touched on the arm are your favorite ways to express love.
4. Attraction and desire can be reawakened.
Don’t just focus on physical attraction and sex.
While you may be attracted to your partner because of their appearance, attraction is often multi-layered and depends on many different things.
I’d love to: For some, it’s about the way their partner vocalizes when they laugh, for others it’s about the way they smell, the jokes they tell, or the way they pay attention to them.
By focusing on the things you once found attractive, you’re likely to start feeling that attraction to your lover again.
This is also a great way to get out of the negative cycle in which all you can see are your partner’s annoying qualities.
Other times, stronger steps need to be taken in order to experience that strong feeling with your partner again.
I’d love to: Sustaining a relationship requires your attention and energy so that you can remain happy and fulfilled.
Once they understand this, the early attraction and connection can be regained, not all the time (only so many hours a day!) ), but enough to keep you happy and fulfilled.
I’d love to: Now that you know the four ways to keep a long-term relationship going, mark your calendar to see which one you want to start with and stick to it.
I’m Jocelyn, and I hope you will all meet someone who loves you. If you have emotional problems, you can ask me for advice. If you are single, maybe you can meet him/her on Bothlive.