A friend of mine said he fell in love with a woman in their company. For single him, we all support him to pursue this woman he likes. But he hesitated to speak.
Later we learned the reason: the woman he likes is a mature woman, 5 years older than him, also single. He didn’t know how he was going to date this mature woman. He doesn’t know what to talk about during a date with this mature woman to get her interested in him.
In fact, for love, age is not an issue. Genuineness is most important.
Generally speaking, mature women, they know exactly what they want. And they can often also show a confident expression, especially career-oriented mature women, often make men afraid to pursue to express his love.
The face of a mature woman, as a man how you get along with her to get her love? In love among everyone has their own ideas, in dating or in love with a mature woman, you can refer to these four principles.
1. Relationship balance
In a good relationship, a mature woman wants both of you to be the “beneficiaries” of the relationship.
“Benefit” is a very subjective idea. Everyone in a relationship, have their own expectations, but also will pay for a lot of things.
This is essentially a swap of benefits, which includes emotional value, material supply, fantasy fulfillment, and so on. Each person has a different focus, and the things they are willing to give and the rewards they desire are also different. Within the range of what you can accept to give, and get what you desire in return, so that people will feel that they are benefited.
So it is vital that you figure out what you want most in a relationship and what the other person wants most, and satisfy the other person within your own acceptance and ask for it within the other person’s acceptance.
The only way the relationship will be balanced is if you both feel you are benefiting. Your relationship can only be long and stable. And this is an important factor that affects a mature woman’s decision to stay with you or not.
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2. Restraint and control
What makes love beautiful is that it is itself a sensual process, full of emotional ups and downs. Some people will be controlled by their own feelings at this time, will be like a child in front of love, lose themselves. Whether it is a self-centered person who asks the other person for more than they can handle, or a person who gives excessively and asks for everything, fundamentally these are a loss of reason. At the moment you are ruled by your own impulses and you don’t realize what impact your actions will have on your relationship. The other party will be exhausted and wear out their love for you; and excessive obedience and giving will indulge the greedy side of the other party’s human nature, and eventually the other party will want more and more, and sooner or later you will collapse. In a good love, both sides should have their own independent personality, do not take love as the whole world, because love is in your hands, you need to be responsible for love, not love to you responsible. In the relationship to grasp a degree, some restraint, in order to make your love long. And this is also the mature woman wants the state of love.
Love is a one-to-one relationship with exclusivity, and it can also give rise to possessiveness and control.
If you really love a person, you will not have any ambiguous relationship with other people of the opposite sex. You will be more emotionally dependent on this person and you want you to belong to each other only. You only share intimate distance with each other. When the other person is sad, or the other person wants to share things to share with someone, you will quietly be a listener, to give each other emotional support. You can make a mature woman find a sense of belonging from you, and she will be willing to share the most authentic side of herself with you. In a good relationship, the two of you are interdependent, partners who walk hand in hand in a long-term intimate relationship. In the attitude of gentle treatment, you let each other have a sense of home with you, you love to be more solid.
4. Growing together
Love is one of many life experiences and a way for people to improve themselves and pursue self-worth. A good love, should be accompanied by change, both should be in the relationship at any time self-awareness and adjustment. In your interaction with a mature woman to discover your own shortcomings, so you also become a better version of yourself. This awareness is not only of your abilities, but also of your personality and psychological aspects. Many people are not sure what kind of person they really are and what kind of things they do in certain situations. The process of falling in love provides us with a “specific environment” in which the tenderness and greed buried in the heart will slowly emerge in an intimate relationship. The best love is a wonderful catalyst for you to become a better version of yourself in the relationship, and we can have a more realistic and deeper concern and awareness of ourselves because of each other, and you can reap happiness and learn to love yourself more in the relationship.
The best love is when you make me a more complete me. For a mature woman this is the kind of love she wants most.
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